I can’t leave my cheating husband right now. Yes, it sucks. Yes I said it, and yes I am embarrassed that I put myself in this situation. I found out my husband cheated in March 2009. August 1st 2009, I realized it was over because he was still cheating. And with two kids, a huge mortgage in my name, and bills galore, I am too much in debt to leave.
I was very careless in my early days, and racked up a good amount of debt, including an extra 12,000$ for the wedding (go figure!). So credit card bills, two small children in day care, and a huge mortgage. If I leave, he can’t pay the mortgage with his income alone, if he leaves, I can’t, so I feel trapped. Either way I am screwed. I am working on trying to get a better job with more money, I am hoping that might help.
Did you ever look at your life and say, HOW IN THE WORLD DID I GET MYSELF IN THIS MESS!!
Not sure exactly what I am going to do, but for now, we are still living together. The only thing that keeps me sane is that I know I am not the only one in this situation. And I know I will get through this, I have to. Till next time.
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Omg! You took the words right outta my mouth. Im in the saaaame boat!!! :/ but have decided to milk him while i can…. Starting my own buisness with HIS MONEY… for some reason has made me feel a lil better!
Good for you!! I am all for doing you and going for your passions. I don’t know your husband, and I am not a lawyer so this is not legal advice, but go get a free consultation with a divorce lawyer just to make sure after everything is said and done, you protect that little Gem that you are starting.
You feel better because in starting this business you are putting yourself first, and he should help you support yourself in doing so. Take Care!
My husband asked me to relocate which meant leaving the best paying job I’ve ever had. I took a part time job to care for his mother and grandson. A month after moving I found evidence of his long standing affair. He said it was over when we moved, for a fresh start. However I’ve found evidence otherwise. I now have the mother in law and grandson else where and looking for better employment to one day be able to provide for myself and two kids. Until then, living in torment thinking about my husband being with her at work 3 out of 4 weeks of every month.
Hello CurlyQ, how devastating for you to sacrifice so much to find out about an affair. And it seems like you got a double hit, thinking it was over and it wasn’t, I remember when I found out the second time, it was not fun at all. I have faith that you will be able to find employment for you and your kids so that you can provide a good life for them. Things will work out in your favor.
Hi I’ve been cheated from 2002 until now!! He is been cheating now he has a baby boby with his mistress I founded out last year November guess what his parents knows about his illegimate kid and even went there to see that kid when he was born.he is still cheating and I founded out that he had impregnated other women, he told her that we have problems and he is in a divorce process with me!! He decided to work awy from home,whe he comes back he will go to his mother’s house and he doesn’t spend time with family!!!he is accusing me of cheating on him with a men he goes with to his church stupid him. I told him to leave me alone so now I want to do my things not to tell jim cause he is being selfish and jealousy, he will say since he is not around his house is convenient for every one to access,which means I have a man who comes into his house!! I’m so pissed off, I’m now asking God to guide me whatever decision I take I shouldn’t regret!! He is not sorry for what he is doing to me,he is a killer he is not scared of hiv and aids and he is putting me @ risk I told him my love is gone for him but he still making me a fool he is loving me!! I’m sick and tired of him and he won’t change instead he accuses me of cheating
bonwige,
It is very very common for someone that is cheating to accuse the other of cheating. My husband accused me of cheating all the time and it was so so frustrating, he was sitting there having sex with someone else and if I look at another man I am cheating? It look me a while to realize the game he was playing and once he did I put a stop to playing into it. When he accused me I would say ok, but at that point I did not care what he thought of me anymore. Game over. Best of luck to you, don’t let his accusations get to you, it’s just a game he is playing, what it does is it makes him feel better about himself to know that you could be cheating as well, so lame, but they do this all the time.
-Jewels
Im 26, everytime my mom got mad at my dad, she left. She would be gone for 2 weeks or 2 days. Now I do the same. Ive been with my now husband for 6 years, married two, and out of the two married years, we have lived together maybe 8 months. when things get ugly, I leave. Which has caused him to seek other women, and even have a baby. We still love each other and want it to work, but we have both done so much damage, we dont know where to start.
Hello Erin,
Isn’t it interesting how we manage to end up doing the same things our parents did out of habit. I just want to point one thing out, your husband did not cheat because you leave when you are mad, if that is his reason for cheating, not a very good one. You could of been at home and you could of went to sleep when you are mad, and then the reason would of been you go to sleep when your mad, so I cheated. So do not beat yourself up because you leave when you are angry. I think it would be wonderful if you can look within and work on that habit, but he did not cheat because you leave when you are mad, his cheating is much more than that. Take Care!
I know how you feel mine lived and worked in ND in the oil boom til his body gave out and he just got in disability and came home to NV but not before he started an affair with an Indian woman a year younger then me and all he does now is stay on the phone with her plotting how he’s going to leave me. I’m on disability I’m 55 …our money together would have supported us well but my little bit alone places me in a bad way and I’m scared. This woman’s separated from her second husband and she stirs my husband up against me to leave the house. If he does we surely lose it and everything we’ve worked for for 29 Years. I can’t talk sense into him. This is one of many affairs he’s had over the years and blamed all of them on me and even tried to blame this one until I stopped him dead in in his tracks and would not take it into myself. Cheaters care ONLY about themselves and nothing about the person they cheat on. I’ve endured more than I ever should and am ready to let go and see what GOD has in store for me. Surely the l