I can’t leave my cheating husband right now. Yes, it sucks. Yes I said it, and yes I am embarrassed that I put myself in this situation. I found out my husband cheated in March 2009. August 1st 2009, I realized it was over because he was still cheating. And with two kids, a huge mortgage in my name, and bills galore, I am too much in debt to leave.
I was very careless in my early days, and racked up a good amount of debt, including an extra 12,000$ for the wedding (go figure!). So credit card bills, two small children in day care, and a huge mortgage. If I leave, he can’t pay the mortgage with his income alone, if he leaves, I can’t, so I feel trapped. Either way I am screwed. I am working on trying to get a better job with more money, I am hoping that might help.
Did you ever look at your life and say, HOW IN THE WORLD DID I GET MYSELF IN THIS MESS!!
Not sure exactly what I am going to do, but for now, we are still living together. The only thing that keeps me sane is that I know I am not the only one in this situation. And I know I will get through this, I have to. Till next time.
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Your blog is really great, hope you`ll continue to update often
Thanks!
Omg! You took the words right outta my mouth. Im in the saaaame boat!!! :/ but have decided to milk him while i can…. Starting my own buisness with HIS MONEY… for some reason has made me feel a lil better!
Good for you!! I am all for doing you and going for your passions. I don’t know your husband, and I am not a lawyer so this is not legal advice, but go get a free consultation with a divorce lawyer just to make sure after everything is said and done, you protect that little Gem that you are starting.
You feel better because in starting this business you are putting yourself first, and he should help you support yourself in doing so. Take Care!
My husband asked me to relocate which meant leaving the best paying job I’ve ever had. I took a part time job to care for his mother and grandson. A month after moving I found evidence of his long standing affair. He said it was over when we moved, for a fresh start. However I’ve found evidence otherwise. I now have the mother in law and grandson else where and looking for better employment to one day be able to provide for myself and two kids. Until then, living in torment thinking about my husband being with her at work 3 out of 4 weeks of every month.
Hello CurlyQ, how devastating for you to sacrifice so much to find out about an affair. And it seems like you got a double hit, thinking it was over and it wasn’t, I remember when I found out the second time, it was not fun at all. I have faith that you will be able to find employment for you and your kids so that you can provide a good life for them. Things will work out in your favor.