http://www.acheatinghusband.com/an-affair-with-myself/ After the Affair Site for wives who have been through the painful situation of a cheating husband Sun, 05 Feb 2012 18:16:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/an-affair-with-myself/comment-page-1/#comment-4844 Jewels Wed, 13 Jul 2011 04:29:04 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=61#comment-4844 Hello Karen, welcome to the site. Your feelings right now are very normal, so please don't beat yourself up. If you are like me, I was so use to 'fixing things'. If there was a problem, I would read a book, phone a friend, and in a matter of days, it was taken care of, until my husband cheated. There was no friend, no book, nothing that could get me out of the misery that I felt in the weeks following the affair. There are SO many reasons why you feel the way you feel, too much to list here but including you mental shock from finding out your husband had the capacity to cheat, the sadness over the 'image of marriage' that you created for you and your husband, the list can go on and on. This situation is not one where you can just bounce back. It is good that you both are communicating that will help. If you have the means to go to therapy (just you) I would recommend it. Your emotions are so deep it is often hard for women to get out of it, and a therapist can help (you and your husband can go as well, but I think in your situation, a one on one therapy can help). Other than that, you take it one day at a time, eventually you will start to heal, everyone has been in the place you have been now, and many have recovered, including myself. Best of luck to you!! Hello Karen, welcome to the site. Your feelings right now are very normal, so please don’t beat yourself up. If you are like me, I was so use to ‘fixing things’. If there was a problem, I would read a book, phone a friend, and in a matter of days, it was taken care of, until my husband cheated. There was no friend, no book, nothing that could get me out of the misery that I felt in the weeks following the affair. There are SO many reasons why you feel the way you feel, too much to list here but including you mental shock from finding out your husband had the capacity to cheat, the sadness over the ‘image of marriage’ that you created for you and your husband, the list can go on and on. This situation is not one where you can just bounce back. It is good that you both are communicating that will help. If you have the means to go to therapy (just you) I would recommend it. Your emotions are so deep it is often hard for women to get out of it, and a therapist can help (you and your husband can go as well, but I think in your situation, a one on one therapy can help). Other than that, you take it one day at a time, eventually you will start to heal, everyone has been in the place you have been now, and many have recovered, including myself. Best of luck to you!!

]]> http://www.acheatinghusband.com/an-affair-with-myself/comment-page-1/#comment-4831 Karen Tue, 12 Jul 2011 18:04:50 +0000 http://www.acheatinghusband.com/?p=61#comment-4831 Its been three weeks now since i found out my husband had cheated on me with a one night stand with a woman he was talking to online. we are communicating alot and things seem to be going ok. but i cant seem to get myself out of a deep depression for some reason. i get up and i dont want to do anything, and if i do anything i feel nothing. like im surrounded by darkness. how does one get out of the depression or am i expecting to much to soon? Its been three weeks now since i found out my husband had cheated on me with a one night stand with a woman he was talking to online. we are communicating alot and things seem to be going ok. but i cant seem to get myself out of a deep depression for some reason. i get up and i dont want to do anything, and if i do anything i feel nothing. like im surrounded by darkness. how does one get out of the depression or am i expecting to much to soon?

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