So this weekend I feel like treating myself. As women, it is usually all about everyone else…..but US. We work, we cook, we clean, we love. Please take some time out this weekend to do something that makes you happy. Force yourself to forget about the fact that your husband has cheated, throw it away, just for a day, for a couple of hours, and do something for you. Read a favorite book, get a babysitter and go for a walk, eat a favorite meal, even it is by yourself. You are so great, and you owe it to yourself to do this.
Life is very short, and sometimes we look for permission to do things that put a smile on our face. So if you’re looking for permission, I GIVE YOU PERMISSION TO DO SOMETHING FOR YOU. And when you do something for you, even with all that you have been going through, it makes a difference in the world. It shows everyone that you interact with that they also have that same permission. My me time will be for a couple of hours tomorrow when I attend a party with one of my friends. For you, it might be totally different, doesn’t matter, as long as you do it. You deserve it. Have a good weekend ladies!!
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Its been three weeks now since i found out my husband had cheated on me with a one night stand with a woman he was talking to online. we are communicating alot and things seem to be going ok. but i cant seem to get myself out of a deep depression for some reason. i get up and i dont want to do anything, and if i do anything i feel nothing. like im surrounded by darkness. how does one get out of the depression or am i expecting to much to soon?
Hello Karen, welcome to the site. Your feelings right now are very normal, so please don’t beat yourself up. If you are like me, I was so use to ‘fixing things’. If there was a problem, I would read a book, phone a friend, and in a matter of days, it was taken care of, until my husband cheated. There was no friend, no book, nothing that could get me out of the misery that I felt in the weeks following the affair. There are SO many reasons why you feel the way you feel, too much to list here but including you mental shock from finding out your husband had the capacity to cheat, the sadness over the ‘image of marriage’ that you created for you and your husband, the list can go on and on. This situation is not one where you can just bounce back. It is good that you both are communicating that will help. If you have the means to go to therapy (just you) I would recommend it. Your emotions are so deep it is often hard for women to get out of it, and a therapist can help (you and your husband can go as well, but I think in your situation, a one on one therapy can help). Other than that, you take it one day at a time, eventually you will start to heal, everyone has been in the place you have been now, and many have recovered, including myself. Best of luck to you!!