If you found your husband talking to other women online, realize that women all over the world are discovering the same thing with their husbands. In my opinion, online cheating is literally an epidemic. Because this type of cheating is fairly new (since the internet has only been around for most people to use for about twenty years), people all over the world are also trying to figure out how to deal with online cheating. Here is my theory on why I feel it is so popular:
1. Ease. Some statistics that say that men think about sex every five minutes. This doesn’t change when they get online. The problem is that the access to sex online is instant. It can be in the form of porn sites, dating sites, and chat rooms. In the past, you’d usually have to order a magazine for pornography. Now you walk to the computer, type porn, and there it is. When your man is constantly bombarded with sex on the internet, this doesn’t exactly help you keep your marriage together. When G-String 69 is doing all this crazy stuff with her body, the husband that is watching has to in some way compare that when engaging with the wife, even if it is sub-consciously.
2. Addictiveness. Just like with cheating, your husband thinks he is just going on a porn site to take a look, or chatting with a random chick to have a little fun for a night. The problem is, the next night he’ll tell himself the same thing. Then both of you get in a fight, and back he goes to the chat room or porn site. Before he knows it, he is addicted. Just like a video game addict gets caught up in a fantasy world, men get caught up in the world of online sex. Usually, the chats turn into calls, which then turn into visits, then into an affair.
3. “But it’s not actually cheating!” Men typically don’t think flirting with women online is actually cheating. If we catch it too soon we are being nags and need to loosen up, just having some innocent fun online. Yes, it starts out so innocent. And then the interactions become more frequent, the casual flirting in a chat room continues onto a casual flirting on the phone, and then casual flirting in person – then BAM – affair.
I think some people who start off online think they can control themselves, and things get way out of hand. This is happening all over the world, and we need to discuss the problem more because I see it increasing, not decreasing.