Cheating Husbands – YOU ARE NOT ALONE

At one point in my relationship, I asked my husband if he wanted to have an ‘open’ relationship.  I saw on some talk show where married couples engaged in different type of open relationships.  Some were ‘swingers’ where they meet other married couple and engage in protected sex.  While I clearly don’t know all the details of how something like this would work, I just wanted to see what my husband would say.

His response – absolutely not.  Refused and even questioned why I asked as if to say that I might be cheating or something.  I was a little concerned that we could not have a good old fashion discussion about it.  We are married right, but he cut the conversation off quick.

His response is even more strange to me now that I found out he was cheating.  I think he was so turned off by it because the thought of some other man inside of me was in some way shape or form, cutting into his manhood. Yet he cheated on me…?

I would of taken an ‘open marriage’ any day over this cheating spouse thing.  And here is 3 reasons why…..

1. Open marriage – the deceit is not there, you know what the deal is upfront, there is no sneaking around and constant lying to the one you love.
2. You don’t have to feel like you locked your man into sex with one person the rest of his life. If he wants more variety, you discuss, and you get it, period.
3. With an open marriage, I assume the worst that can happen is that your spouse breaks one of the rules you set up before your relationship became open.  Seems like it would take a lot to have a ‘deal breaker’.  In cheating spouses, often times the actual deal breaker is the act of cheating.